tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post8785544928882277461..comments2024-03-20T10:17:53.388+01:00Comments on tales from the birdhut: dag mamaSaskiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-59285894591549811202020-12-05T16:01:52.624+01:002020-12-05T16:01:52.624+01:00hi there Sue, thank you for your heartfelt comment...hi there Sue, thank you for your heartfelt comment and 'yes' to all you mention; it's all okay, I'm okay, because I just am, in the sad moments as well as the joyful ones.Saskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-34982586618754414282020-12-04T00:21:02.829+01:002020-12-04T00:21:02.829+01:00Dear Saskia...firstly, I am so very sorry to hear ...Dear Saskia...firstly, I am so very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. Mother-Daughter relationships can be a hurdle sometimes. Yes, often, it is because there is a fiber of Mom in your heart from the moment of conception. You may very well experience highs and lows in this "new normal." Days when you still think of arguments, disagreements...but, also, the love and happy times, the lessons, treasured moments. It took me quite some time to come to peace with my Mom after she passed away. Adversity can bring out the best and the worst in people. Be kind to yourself. There is no magic time frame in which to heal. It will come, believe me. <br />Love<br />SueSue McQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16027244834487709844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-19547833169825388442020-11-26T16:37:31.146+01:002020-11-26T16:37:31.146+01:00Dilou, merci beaucoup, elle était une femme except...Dilou, merci beaucoup, elle était une femme exceptionelle....la vie sera un peu vide sans elleSaskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-23867009492530706702020-11-26T16:33:39.606+01:002020-11-26T16:33:39.606+01:00thank you Joy, she absolutely wasthank you Joy, she absolutely wasSaskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-34519216859085647162020-11-25T17:30:43.755+01:002020-11-25T17:30:43.755+01:00Toutes mes condoléances pour cette immense perte. ...Toutes mes condoléances pour cette immense perte. Elle semblait être une femme pleine de vie. Bon courage.DILOUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17869669910230037991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-35445052414401281332020-11-23T23:46:10.467+01:002020-11-23T23:46:10.467+01:00Dear Saskia, I am sorry for the loss of your mothe...Dear Saskia, I am sorry for the loss of your mother. She looks like she was a vibrant, interesting lady.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15471639876072617577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-77701442061759832622020-11-22T16:30:12.381+01:002020-11-22T16:30:12.381+01:00hi ((Mo)) she was a remarkable woman and will be m...hi ((Mo)) she was a remarkable woman and will be missed, not just by me...<br /><br />40 years is a long time dear Marti....I remember you mentioned this before and thinking at the time how lucky I have been to have had her with me for so much longer, even though it did not always feel like 'luck', it often weighed me down and held me back. Wanting to have her at home was a surprise to all of us and it is the start of the process of letting go...<br /><br />your tears Nancy and Marti, for me at least, are a sign of your love for ánd your loss of your mothers, our mothers....phew this mother-hood-thing sure means a lot, embracing you both virtually<br /><br />it is a comfort to know she lives on through me Liz, despite all our arguments and my wanting to be my own person; not only does she carry on in me, my brother's youngest daughter, her youngest grandchild, said the sweetest thing: 'my farmor was my family-idol, I want to grow up just like her and I think I already resemble her in so many ways!' what a tribute....I so enjoy reading your posts about your family and see you surrounded by your (grand)children and marvel at the happiness and love you share<br /><br />I have time Grace xx<br /><br />thank you for your words of wisdom Dana, 'grief.....as a mirror of the relationship' succinctly captures the essence<br /><br />oh Sarita, thank you, during this past week we have been 'held' by many comforting arms<br /><br />Maria, oudste dochters dragen veel en tegelijk krijgen we veel, ik ben mijn lieve mama dankbaar <br /><br /><br /><br />Saskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-40244842290657157782020-11-22T05:33:10.753+01:002020-11-22T05:33:10.753+01:00the circle of life
de oudste dochter (ik ben er o...the circle of life <br />de oudste dochter (ik ben er ook een)voor jou werd ze de eerste maal een moeder en maakte ze contact met jou als eigenheid , was ook confronterend voor haar / voor beiden , zij wou het goed doen / jij deed het goed , maar niet naar haar normen , jij hebt de jouwe trouw te zijn , liefde is daar de " rode draad " tussen , soms is de draad gewoon op en doe je een nieuw stuk in de naald , de naald en de draad zijn met elkaar verbonden , de naald prikt , of op de juiste plaats of er wat naast of zoekend .<br />jij die er veel met werkt in je plaids / clots die je maak kent de werking ervan , het resultaat is zoals het is , en zo is het / was het goed , <br />Warme harte omhelzing in deze tijd waar de bladeren vallen en de boomsappen zich naar binnen keren om te rusten , om kracht aan te maken voor de komende bloei tijd ,<br />in die stroom verbonden maria buysse mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00388258016865631496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-67742382591266434002020-11-21T23:16:54.293+01:002020-11-21T23:16:54.293+01:00Dear Saskia,
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I hope kn...Dear Saskia,<br />I’m so sorry for your loss.<br />I hope knowing you are held in loving thoughts brings some comfort.<br />Peace & love find you & be with you,<br />SaritaArdensgardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05144738043883492835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-48986582523950655082020-11-21T19:36:45.741+01:002020-11-21T19:36:45.741+01:00Dear Saskia,
I'm so sorry this moment of loss ...Dear Saskia,<br />I'm so sorry this moment of loss has finally come. No matter how well we think we understand what will happen or how it will be, we can never be truly prepared for the empty place left by those we love. Grief, in all of its complicated manifestations, is a mirror of the relationship. I am thinking of you and your family in this sad time.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00761693509597939388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-28492228403652190072020-11-21T14:48:19.794+01:002020-11-21T14:48:19.794+01:00it will take time. I hold you in my heartit will take time. I hold you in my heartgrace Forrest~Maestashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15853978388902544613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-4260327746841442872020-11-21T14:33:45.618+01:002020-11-21T14:33:45.618+01:00oh Saskia ... she was so beautiful ... as are you
...oh Saskia ... she was so beautiful ... as are you<br /><br />"losing a mother is the hardest thing" ... words written to me 12 years ago and still they ring true<br /><br />as time goes by you may very well find signs in your world that keep your mother in your life (for me, ladybugs and having a clear on-ramp to the interstate ... after which I always say "thanks Mom")<br /><br />and yes, as Marti so rightly says, you will hear yourself sounding like her ... sometimes a comfort, sometimes a hard thing to bear ... <br /><br />you and yours will be in my thoughts in the days ahead ... may memories of kinder days bring you comfort and a measure of peaceLiz Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03397660873950991774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-51211179038004061402020-11-21T03:20:32.966+01:002020-11-21T03:20:32.966+01:00SaX~ Oh. I'm sending big, big love to you and ...SaX~ Oh. I'm sending big, big love to you and your family. Like Marti, I cried, perhaps because of the missing that still happens with my own mama, or the loss of so many others...but really because I've understood or sensed how hard this time has been for you. It is never easy to move through the passing of important ones. Your words, so heartfelt and honest really touched me. Be easy with yourself, take time to be. Love to you my friend.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17185798765137874091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-42771788606828925542020-11-20T21:17:11.431+01:002020-11-20T21:17:11.431+01:00Querida Saskia,
I so strongly felt the need to s...Querida Saskia, <br /><br />I so strongly felt the need to say Dear Saskia in Spanish because the honest, heart- filled words you wrote about your mother connected deeply with me. Yes it is all ok, we who are the oldest daughters, locking horns with our mothers at times and coming to understand years later, that they gave us their best What a loving way to send her off, in her home, surrounded by her loving family, flowers, cards and lipstick- I smiled when I read that and then I cried a little. It is such a beautiful way to honor, respect, love, and say goodbye.<br /><br />Mourning takes time and when you think you have come to an understanding, a settling, a memory pope up or you see something that reminds you of your mother or you hear yourself sounding like her and it all comes to the forefront. You are just beginning this journey, I have been mourning the loss of my mother for over 40 yrs. What I can say to you Saskia is to be good to yourself, you were there for your Mama. My arms are around all of you and I send you love and my condolences.Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01305881181604750937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7254503312795252536.post-38170856733476001382020-11-20T20:20:11.233+01:002020-11-20T20:20:11.233+01:00(((Saskia & all your family))) this is a beaut...(((Saskia & all your family))) this is a beautiful tribute to your fabulous Mama!Mo Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09004208849028911104noreply@blogger.com